I can’t even find the right words to describe my wedding day – it was perfect! Not everything went according to the Plan but I got married and we had an amazing time.
The preparation stage was very VERY hectic, I had two photographers and a videographer running around me and recording everything I did that day – from my hair and make-up session to getting dressed and leaving the house. Everything!
Not sure about you, but I’m not used to having cameras pointed at me all the time so yes, I was pretty freaked out about it at first but then I relaxed and managed to enjoy the whole thing.
I think this is actually a very important point, you have to find a way how to stop worrying about those little bits and bobs that go wrong or in a completely different way and focus on the BIG FACT – you’re getting married to the person you love.
I did exactly that, I stopped thinking about what’s going on around me, how many people are watching my every step and focused on the man I chose to spend the rest of my live with.
Yes, some things will go wrong – I was 40 minutes late for the church. Yes, I’m sorry to say that but I was. My poor H2B sweated it out, but he knew I was coming. In my defence, it wasn’t my fault. The photographers made me late. Their requests to take a picture of me putting my dress on, my shoes on, correcting my make-up, kissing my mum, etc… made us all late.
The hour or so in the church was absolutely amazing, I’m not Catholic myself but my husband is so we opted for a full on Catholic wedding. I love churches, the atmosphere during a mass is always brilliant. The music makes me cry though. I thought I was going to cry during the ceremony but instead, the adrenalin kept me high and I smiled a lot and enjoyed the whole thing. I know, I wasn’t expecting it.
With my nerves kicking in before anything that’s our of ordinary in my life - either public speaking or a presentation, or getting married in fact – I felt sick in the morning so couldn’t eat anything at all. This was a mistake. Your wedding day is going to be a long one. We started at 10AM, with the arrival of hairdresser and photographers, and ended at 3AM the following day drinking champagne with my husband on the balcony of our hotel room. I was completely shattered at that stage!
Our photography session after the church ceremony and before the reception was an interesting one. There was a plan but… I haven’t seen the pictures yet so I don’t know if we managed to take one with everyone but I doubt it. There were just too many people and the photographer got really busy.
I wish I had hired a better wedding planner, she was good for sharing her contacts (we got married abroad – in Madeira, so we really needed those) but during the day she failed on many levels. I was late, we didn’t get to take photos with everyone, we didn’t get to do speeches or the compulsory rounds around the tables, and the list goes on… I’d be a much better planner.
But at the end of the day, it was the biggest day of our lives, everybody had fun, nothing major happened, my parents enjoyed the day too (even though they don’t speak Portuguese or English), people cried and laughed and we got married!
Just to sum up, here are my top tips for a perfect wedding day:
1. Stop worrying about the little things and focus on what really matters – you’re getting married
2. Don’t freak out about the huge attention you’ll be getting. It’s your day
3. Look after yourself and make sure you eat and drink plenty of water
4. Ask your maid of honour to keen her eyes on the time, you don’t want to be late
5. If you have a wedding planner, ask her to make sure we’re on schedule so you get to do everything
6. If something goes wrong, ignore it. Nothing is perfect
7. Pay attention to people but remember your one priority – your husband
8. Don’t be sad to see people leaving after the cake cutting, it’s normal
9. If your parents and family don’t understand the language, make sure you help them. It’s your responsibility that they have a brilliant day too
10. Find time to step back and take a moment to understand that this is your wedding day